tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133890555036844375.post7193085898834083264..comments2023-03-24T00:52:47.275-07:00Comments on The Christina Chronicles: Wedding WoesChristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14642237923817906594noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133890555036844375.post-65890815832662401782010-07-21T22:02:00.858-07:002010-07-21T22:02:00.858-07:00Awww...I heart you Christina. I'm sure everyth...Awww...I heart you Christina. I'm sure everything will work out. If you ever need anything, let me know! And, you can always elope! Do it your way, and then have the "wedding". And believe it or not, after its over, all the stress will actually seem worth it!Athenanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133890555036844375.post-8023733893240746312010-07-21T10:11:48.780-07:002010-07-21T10:11:48.780-07:00Athena, that's so crazy to criticize daisies! ...Athena, that's so crazy to criticize daisies! Who doesn't love to have daisies around??? And since it's your favorite flower, it had meaning! And I love that you had Billy there in your wedding. Now THAT'S meaningful, rather than just following a pattern of what everyone else has done.<br /><br />Thanks, Dani. I think a camping wedding sounds awesome!Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14642237923817906594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133890555036844375.post-51755065022490459992010-07-20T09:43:19.154-07:002010-07-20T09:43:19.154-07:00Wowza, Christina! What a fun experience for everyo...Wowza, Christina! What a fun experience for everyone involved! I honestly read your menu and thought "oh man. thats some thoughtful stuff. Breakfast baskets? Awesomely thoughtful. Fajitas? really awesomely thoughtful." I would love to go to a wedding and remember the food. But I dont. I remember the way they look at each other. And her dress, I'll admit it.<br />If I were to ever decide "a wedding" was a good idea for me, I would go camping and invite everyone to come along. Bring a tent and a dish for the pot-luck reception. Why? To avoid this stuff. Dear parents- this wedding is actually not about you nor is it a reflection on you. If anything you could all bask in the glory of the children you have raised- people that can actually remain thoughtful and true to their Self at the same time. <br />Weddings and funerals make people crazy.Danihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13426931449989843857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133890555036844375.post-2814484241357790752010-07-20T07:21:27.910-07:002010-07-20T07:21:27.910-07:00Christina...I think everyone goes through it. I kn...Christina...I think everyone goes through it. I know your Mom and Dad only want what’s best, and Andrew is a nice guy, so I'm sure his Mom only wants what is best too. What NO parent really gets is that what is best (or pretty/proper/right) is not always what IS best (pretty/proper/right) for you. We wanted 50 people at our wedding, and settled for 150. My Mom wanted us to get married at the Temple (but they would spring for the Shrine side), insisted on an open bar, and huffed at my food choices (which, by the way, is what I get complemented on. Not "Oh! What a great wedding!"-I get "great food!"). I got criticized on everything from my flower choice (daisies...my favorite since I was little) to the wedding party (we couldn’t choose between our friends, so did family only. Billy made a GREAT Made-of-Honor. He even learned how to fix my bustle), to where to have it. Ryan’s mom insisted on inviting all her friends from work (don’t worry, Ryan has “known” them since he was little…never mind the fact that most of them were not OUR friends, or the fact that she didn’t pay for ANYTHING). But in the end…it was amazing. And your wedding will be too, if for no other reason than because it is your wedding (your amazingly creative taste is just a bonus). Fight for what is important. Let everything else go (which, I know, is a lot more difficult than it sound…and I am too uptight to have anything be less than perfect). At the end of the day, you will be married to the man you love. Hang on to that, because that is what matters. And then you can get ready for the next set of blog material…How does it feel to be married/when are you having kids/are you pregnant because you got married after all these year? Congratulations, I wish you and Andrew the best.Athenanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133890555036844375.post-57449925275969527382010-07-19T22:26:17.241-07:002010-07-19T22:26:17.241-07:00Amanda, those are my thoughts exactly. And I'...Amanda, those are my thoughts exactly. And I'll borrow some of your no-nonsense bravery when I need it next!<br /><br />Cheryl, I will certainly look forward to the "I told you so" and thank you for the reassurance. It's good to know I'm not alone!<br /><br />Joi, I think your sailor mouth and my sailor mouth are a match made in heaven! No offense would be taken here! And maybe I'll save my 2nd marriage to do exactly what my mom wants! ;)<br /><br />Amber, thanks for the encouragement! It's good to know someone, somewhere appreciates it!Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14642237923817906594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133890555036844375.post-47946740475757870302010-07-19T17:12:59.636-07:002010-07-19T17:12:59.636-07:00I'm not married so I sure can't offer that...I'm not married so I sure can't offer that insight, but I can tell you how awesome I think your wedding is going to be this fall. As a matter of fact, I have shown your website to a few friends (you met Kristen in Vegas) and co-workers, and they all think it looks like a FABULOUS wedding! They were quite stunned at the weekend that you had put together for everyone...including all the food you are offering. Perhaps we are all hicks out here in Oklahoma, but the consensus (pre-blog ptwo cost) was that my friends out west throw some amazing weddings! They are so impressed that everyone wants to come as my date! <br /><br />The last of my two cents...I am super excited for you and Andrew! And, I think your wedding weekend extravaganza looks like something from a Hallmark movie (that is a compliment in my book)!! Just remember that in the end you will be married to Andrew :)Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13396738266795519062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133890555036844375.post-77805879162149033642010-07-19T16:24:16.872-07:002010-07-19T16:24:16.872-07:00Throw NOT through... sorry up all night with a sic...Throw NOT through... sorry up all night with a sick Grey.Joihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06054871106961317527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133890555036844375.post-56934505152820130872010-07-19T16:23:31.277-07:002010-07-19T16:23:31.277-07:00We didn't go though that but, in all fairness,...We didn't go though that but, in all fairness, this was my 2nd marriage and my philosophy was this a celebration of US. If any family members didn't like it they could through their own celebration. (Well it was a little more strongly worded than that but this is a nice blog and all and I don't want to muddy it up with my sailor mouth)<br /><br />My 1st wedding.... all I can say about that one was I hope my mom enjoyed it because clearly it was for her.Joihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06054871106961317527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133890555036844375.post-50962046374491870902010-07-19T14:50:44.602-07:002010-07-19T14:50:44.602-07:00Christina just just have to stand your ground. Let...Christina just just have to stand your ground. Let your parents know that you and Andrew appericate the $$ help and there concerns are very much valid and you are working with staff that handle these events everyday and you will not disappoint. It is your's and Andrew's wedding. Yes what they say can hurt and be fursting but when the wedding is over and everyone had a blast that allowed themselves to you can say I told you! It all sounds beautiful and fun and I believe people will like the change of pace. We all get tired of the same 3 choices at every wedding. And you are paying for the wedding for the most part so you get last say. Time to worry about your dream wedding and not the parent's dream wedding. To answer your question above YES ANYONE WHO GETS MARRIED GOES THOUGH THIS. LOLCherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10438530139736526043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133890555036844375.post-43921953527708265962010-07-19T14:01:13.972-07:002010-07-19T14:01:13.972-07:00You said it perfectly...it's YOUR day! Not And...You said it perfectly...it's YOUR day! Not Andrew's Mom, or your parent's. YOU & ANDREW! And if they don't like it, TOUGH!! In all honesty, who really remembers what food was served at what wedding? I for one, don't! Everything you described sounds wonderfully amazing to me! I can't believe she's actually having this much of a fit about FOOD?! Shouldn't she be more worried about the things that matter the most at a wedding?? The Bride and Groom!?! YOUR day should be about what you want for your guests and that YOUR day is everything you've ever dreamed of...end of discussion!! :)<br /><br />AAmanda Pinternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133890555036844375.post-58565757876179469192010-07-19T13:19:15.347-07:002010-07-19T13:19:15.347-07:00Oh, and I'm going to tell everyone you say I&#...Oh, and I'm going to tell everyone you say I'm "pleasant and even-keeled!" :DYohannah McNeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02358663934144188399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133890555036844375.post-8540357907070436272010-07-19T13:17:58.202-07:002010-07-19T13:17:58.202-07:00The best thing is that it didn't happen in fro...The best thing is that it didn't happen in front of me, I only heard about it afterwards, and by then they had kissed and made up. Dad-in-law took something that bro said out of context (bro has a big mouth) and it just escalated. You know, it really wasn't that bad! I guess it just sounds worse than it was. I had a lovely day, really! I just have some fun stories. :)<br /><br />It just goes to show that at the end of the day, the things that really are unimportant just don't matter if you have a good time. That's one thing I was focused on, not worrying about the little things and having a good time. I got to eat my whole meal, which was delicious, and talk to everyone. When it was all over, I was exhausted, but my wedding was everything I wanted it to be. I hope yours is everything you want it to be too!Yohannah McNeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02358663934144188399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133890555036844375.post-61794105718263086772010-07-19T12:34:24.404-07:002010-07-19T12:34:24.404-07:00OMG Yoy... that's terrible. A blow up AT the ...OMG Yoy... that's terrible. A blow up AT the wedding, I would not be happy about! The only person I could see doing that is Andrew's mom. She gets emotional and shouts and storms out. I've seen it before. My parents wouldn't ever cause a scene and I don't think anyone else is invested enough to get so upset over something. I'm so sorry, Yoy! And to think that could happen to a person as pleasant and even-keeled as you are! Crazy!<br /><br />And you're right. Some people won't be happy no matter what. I HAVE to remind myself of that. THANK YOU!Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14642237923817906594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133890555036844375.post-83569458976551171022010-07-19T12:26:42.909-07:002010-07-19T12:26:42.909-07:00Totally, freaking totally. I had to experience so...Totally, freaking totally. I had to experience some of this, though not as bad as you. Mostly, since we were paying for 100% of everything, I didn't gove a crap what other people thought. Although I did have family members who won't eat this or that (changing completely what I wanted for the rehearsal dinner), vegetarian people, and siblings who were totally pissed about where they were sitting. The fun times were the father-in-law and my brother having a big fight at the reception because they're both bull-headed and insensitive. <br /><br />I did my best to minimize all this with forethought though, but there are some things that are just unavoidable. Crap's just going to go down. I did have lots of very supportive people though that protected me from the bulk of it on the day of and even told off the church wedding coordinator when she got too pushy. Sometimes, you just have to do the best you can and tell the bossy people to suck it up, it is your day. If they can't be happy after all you've done to meet them halfway, then they just aren't going to be no matter what you do.Yohannah McNeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02358663934144188399noreply@blogger.com